Wedding photography is great if both parties are really happy and if everything is going all right. That isn’t always going to be the case, though, no matter how much people want it to be. You’re going to see people fighting at the wedding. You’re going to see some disagreements and some things are not going to go according to plan. One of the worst things that can happen, of course, is the possibility of an unhappy bride.
Brides have a tendency to care about the ceremony more than grooms, although this is not always the case. In a couple where both parties are brides, one bride is usually going to take the ceremony more seriously than the other. Finding an unhappy bride is not difficult unless it’s a marriage with two grooms.
As the wedding photographer, it is not your job to play marriage counselor. You can try, but even if you do, you’re probably not going to be able to do so successfully. Unhappy brides are not going to want the wedding photographer to comfort them because coming from you; it’s just going to look like you’re trying to stop her from being upset so it doesn’t ruin the picture. Sadly, that actually is something that you’re going to need to worry about on top of everything else.
Brides aren’t going to be unhappy forever. They’re going to want to look back on all of their wedding pictures happily, and you still have to make that happen for them even if they are temporarily really unhappy. Usually, brides are not going to be consistently unhappy during the entire wedding ceremony. They’re going to have some moments where they are actually able to hold it together, even if the wedding is not going the way that they planned. Those are the moments that you should try to capture.
Sometimes, people really are going to need to comfort the bride in advance, or it isn’t going to work. In that case, it’s often a better idea to try to get someone else to comfort her. She’s probably going to prefer to have a friend do it. It’s difficult to be a mediator under these circumstances. However, if you’ve been observing the dynamics of the wedding previously, you might at least have some idea of who you can choose to help you mediate. Someone should be able to provide the bride with comfort.
Of course, if there really is no one else, then you might have to be the one who will do it. The bride might actually like that if she really is getting very little support from everyone else. If you try to emphasize the fact that you’re trying to be there for her, you might be able to actually make her feel better. This could lead to better pictures, and it is also going to make people respond more positively to you and to your work in the future. You’ll probably get a great review from a bride if this goes according to plan.